I got these from Dr. Harlina. MasyaAllah SUPERB!! Thanks .Dr. for the sharing. I'm learning from you. May Allah reward you better.
- Engage in intellectual discussion with your spouse - on issues of environment, politics, socio-economics. Include the children in the discourse, get their opinions.
- Avoid gossiping about the neighbours/artists/politicians
. Stop quarelling over petty matters. Enlighten your home with rays of wisdom and virtues. - Make time to read the Quran together with your children, especially the adolescents. Ponder on the translation. Help each other to memorize some parts of the Quran. Each child should have his/her own Quran (+ translation) hardcopy, besides a mobile phone @ laptop!
- Raise your boys to be caring, thoughtful and responsible men.
- Never humiliate them in front of others, esp the siblings.
- Be a good listener and mind-reader. Listen to his silence. Read his body languages. Your teenage boy is sending out a message : SOS, help me survive this rapids of adolescence! Anybody listening out there?
- Play with your toddlers ( below five years) - that was what Saidina Ali ra proposed. Dads, carry them over your shoulders - give them the chance to see the world from where you stand. Rasulullah SAW did that to his grandsons. The child psychologists agreed that is the best way to carry your toddler!
- Respond appropriately when others complained about your children's misbehavior/misconduct. Do not take it personally. Do not stage war or threaten to take legal action against the complainant before investigating thoroughly. It takes the whole world (not just a village) to raise a child these days.
That's it for today. Learn more and more each day. May Allah give us the best reward for seeking knowledge!
~AynaRazaly~
~AynaRazaly~
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